What is ‘Phubbing’ and How It Could Be Ruining Your Relationship

Are you guilty of ‘phubbing’? Well if so psychologists believe it could be severely disrupting your relationships.

First of all, what exactly is phubbing? The phenomenon is the act of snubbing the person in front of you by being engrossed in your phone – sound familiar?

And it seems many of us are guilty of engaging in phubbing. A recent survey by cybersecurity provider Kaspersky Lab found 55% of respondents admitted to arging with their partner over spending too much time on a phone or computer.

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It was found that for those in ‘struggling’ relationships something as small as a partner checking their phone during dinner was enough to spark an argument.

Whether it’s a romantic relationship or a friendship, science says that the reason why is being ‘phubbed’ is so provocative is as it threatens our “basic human need to belong” and makes face-to-face interactions less meaningful.

Another study published in Computers in Human Behaviour found that texting during a conversation made it less satisfying for the people having it, which backed up an earlier study that proved that even the mere presence of a smartphone was enough to make people feel less connected to each other.

If you are indeed guilty of phubbing, communication professor Jesse Fox says you must create strict rules for your smartphone use, speaking to SheerLuxe.

The mere presence of a smartphone was proven to enough to make people feel less connected to each other.

Putting your phone out of reach while eating meals, switch it to silent mode when spending time with your partner and she also recommends practicing meditation or mindfulness to help retrain your attention capacity.

If you’re the one who is being phubbed she says the best policy is honesty.

“Don’t glare at them, get on your phone to silently retaliate, or make passive aggressive comments expecting them to interpret your wishes,” she says.

Instead Fox advises coming to a compromise and establishing mutual rules.

It seems if you don’t want to break up your relationship, it’s time to break up with your phone, even if only for a short while.